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WHY WE DON’T HEAR OTHERS
"Be swift to hear" (James 1:19) involves making sure you are not a:
-Mind reader. You'll hear little or nothing as you think, "What is this person really thinking or feeling?"
-Rehearser. Mental tryouts for "Here's what I'll say next" tune out the speaker.
-Filterer. Selective listening—hearing only what you want to hear.
-Dreamer. Drifting off during a face-to-face conversation can lead to an embarrassing, "What did you say?" or "Could you repeat that?"
-Identifier. If you refer everything you hear to your experience, you probably didn't really hear what was said.
-Comparer. When you get sidetracked assessing the messenger, you're sure to miss the message.
-Derailer. Changing the subject too quickly soon tells others you're not interested in anything they have to say.
-Sparrer. You hear what's said but quickly belittle it or discount it. That puts you in the same class as the derailer.
-Placater. Agreeing with everything you hear just to be nice or to avoid conflict does not mean you're a good listener.