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THE GRAPEFRUIT SYNDROME

My husband and I had been married about two years -just long enough to realize that he was a normal man rather than a knight on a white charger - when I read an article recommending that couples regularly discuss the habits they find annoying in each other. I talked to my husband about the idea, and he agreed to give it a try.

As I recall, we were to name five things we found irritating, and I started off. After more than fifty years, I remember only my first complaint; grapefruit. I told him that I didn't like the way he ate grapefruit. He peeled it and ate it like an orange. Could a woman be expected to spend a lifetime watching her husband eat a grapefruit like that? Although I've forgotten them, I am sure the rest of my complaints were similar.

After I finished, it was his turn. I still carry a mental image of his handsome young face as he gathered his brows together in a thoughtful puzzled frown and then looked at me with his large, blue-gray eyes. He said, "Well, to tell the truth, I can't think of anything I don't like about you, honey."

Tears ran down my face. I had found fault with him over such a trivial thing as the way he ate his grapefruit, while he hadn't noticed any of my own annoying habits.

I wish I could say that this cured me of fault-finding. It didn't. But, it did make me aware early in my marriage that husbands and wives do need to keep in perspective the little differences in their habits and personalities. When I hear of couples being incompatible, I wonder if it's just "Grapefruit Syndrome."

by:  L.Walters

Submitted by:
Tim Woodward
Smithville church of Christ